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Regret - Avoid Feeling Regretful Through Others' Life Earned Wisdom

re·gret
  1. 1.
    feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity).
    "she immediately regretted her words"
    synonyms:be sorry about, feel contrite about, feel remorse about/for, be remorseful about, rue, repent (of), feel repentant about, be regretful at/about

Steve Jobs commencement speech at Harvard, 2005, 3 personal stories with life lessons
  1. Trust & believe that following your interests & intuiton will make all the difference in your life
    1. Steve's adoptive parents had to promise his biological mother he would attend college in order to finalize his adoption
    2. Steve dropped out of college but stayed on campus to take interesting elective courses
    3. Elective calligraphy course inspired fonts which resulted in the first Macintosh personal computer having beautiful type faces
  2. Sometimes life will hit you in the head with a brick, but don't give up, follow your love, don't settle
    1. Steve was fired from the Apple company he had started, & he was devastated at the age of 30
    2. Steve decided that though he was rejected, he was still in love with creative technologies
    3. Steve started over, creating two companies, Next & Pixar, and fell in love 
      1. Pixar created most popular animation movie ever made, Toy Story, and is most successful animation studio in world
      2. Next was purchased by Apple, & Steve returned to Apple
      3. Steve married and started a loving family
  3. Remembering I'll be dead soon is best tool to help me make the biggest choices in life.
    1. I look in the mirror and ask, "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something."
    2. Pancreatic Cancer meant having to getting his life buttoned up.
    3. Death is the best invention of life, it cleans out the old and allows for re-birth.
    4. Don't let others drown out your voice and tell you what to become
      1. Life is too short for you to not live your own life.
      2. Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish
1. Think hard about your chosen major (plan after HS)
2. Get familiar about career options.
3. Gain an international experience.
4. Seek new experiences.

, Harvard Sophomore, President of National Teen Council, musician & dancer

Harvard sophomore from Kansas City, president of National Teen Council, musician & dancer

1. Tryout for your favorite sport, music group, cheer squad, student council group, etc.
2. Do not try out for groups you did not enjoy the year before.
3. Get involved in activities, but do not go overboard, and get too busy to know what you have the most passion towards.
4. Get to know everyone you can. Do not set limits on who can be your friend. Do not judge. 
5. Get to know your teachers.
6. Have fun, but not too much fun. Stay true to who you are - don't change for the approval of others.
7. Get enough sleep to have energy for an active life.
8. Go to school events.

Top-10-Regrets-By-Those-About-To-Die, Skanda Vale Hospice, run by monks & nuns of Skanda Vale Monastery in Whales; sharing from elderly in nursing homes & palliative (pain relief) care -
  1.  I never pursued my dreams & aspirations.
  2.  I worked to much & never made time for my family.
  3.  I should have made more time for my friends.
  4.  I should have said  'love you' a lot more.
  5.  I should have spoken my mind more instead of holding back & resenting things.
  6.  I should have been a bigger person and resolved my conflicts.
  7.  I wish I had kids.
  8.  I should have saved more money for retirement.
  9.  Not having the courage to live truthfully (instead of compromising myself to be liked or loved).
  10.  Happiness is always a choice. I wish I'd known that earlier.
Baby boomers working up to social security retirement age of 67 regret not retiring sooner.
Retiree's with at least $100,000 saved, on average, wished they'd retired 4 years earlier than they did.